Aditya, one of my friends, and a successful manager, was flummoxed and frustrated when he reached out. His struggle to nudge one of his team members, an aberration, consumed him.
Lily and Aditya have been working for more than a year now and share a very close bond, within and outside office too. They have gone out for coffee and drinks, have spent time over weekends too. They are friends apart from their reporting structure. Aditya has similar bonds with rest of his team mates too, hence this is not an aberration.
Let’s understand what is happening here. My nonplussed friend, was blamed by the team member for not being helpful, ended up questioning his caliber and intent. The inchoate situation, somewhere pricked him deep and left him deflated. He felt his dilatory, yet well intended efforts, made the relationship go soar – and he wasn’t wrong.
Why did the feedback fail?
I asked my twitter luminaries to ponder over the most critical aspects of good and effective feedback.
I must recommend you to read all the responses. All are valid points and both of us started checking what was done or missed:
Positive intent from him and on surface agreement from Lily
Nature of the relation was not hostile; in-fact they shared a strong bond
Feedback was delivered in all possible ways – informally, formally, timely, sandwich-approach, directive, prescriptive, coaching, exploration…. the list goes on
The feedback was fact based and objective
What is the issue then?
Feedback is a form of communication and as we know communication is complete only when the receiver has received and understood the message. In their case, Lily never received the message or feedback.
The intent of the recipient is paramount for them to inculcate, imbibe and reflect. In one of the responses, my colleague and friend, Siji nailed it: “…We always look at validation and it is when an individual believes…he would get a favorable outcome, he/she is more vested and in turn can trade some improvement areas.“
If you are struggling with someone who is not ready to consider the feedback, I’d suggest try newer ways. If all done and you are met with the same result, then instead of beating yourself up, you must let it go. Each plant grows at its own pace – some respond to conditions and grow faster, some react and achieve stunted growth. It is fine.
Understand – not all coal pieces become diamond. Only few do.
Would love to hear if you have faced a similar situation or if you have another perspective. I love feedback!
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A few disclaimers before we begin – I am not an expert in this field and this is totally a free advice. Please do your due-diligence before investing – I have invested in cryptocurrency: Bitcoin, Ethereum, XRP and SiaCoin – I have invested that amount of money, which if goes to zero, will not impact my life; I call it ‘party fund investing’ – I have not been paid to mention these apps and portal and it is purely my own effort to educate others – I have given the links below and if you use them, I may get some referral increments however it will not cost you anything extra
What is cryptocurrency?
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Let’s cut to the chase.
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