3 tips to avoid Rash Decisions

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We all have been there, done that. What? Rash and Crazy decisions. And most of the time, these decisions, although seemingly justified, come and haunt us. Every time we take a rash decision, we make ourselves vulnerable and put risks at play.

  • Your boss is difficult to work with – you quit your job.
  • Your spouse doesn’t appreciate your passion – you start to ignore them.
  • Your friends forgot to invite you – you unfriend them.
  • The parking lot guy could not guide you – you start yelling.

What is happening? In all of these instances (and I know there are many more – why don’t you share some by commenting to this blog) the reaction to the situation has done nothing to address the issue. Almost all the times, the issue continues to stay and your reaction becomes another issue to be addressed.

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So what should you do?

I don’t know. I will tell you what I do and you might wish to try that. There is no set answer but I will give you three tips:

  1. Have an honest discussion to know the reason. Ask ‘why’? There is always a story and be ready to accept the story and change your perspective.
  2. Take out protagonists from the story – See how one would deal with the situation if you take off names and just keep the story. Sometimes our bias/love towards people influences us – don’t let that happen.
  3. Talk to a more mature person – this person could be a friend, spouse, mentor, colleague… ask them what should you do after sharing the honest story you know. Third party view always helps.

It’s always understood that each situation will be unique and would require that much in depth introspection however next time, blood rushes to your head, sit down and chose one of the options. The idea is to give yourself time, perspective and options. The approach should be to avoid rash decisions and impact of those decisions.

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2 thoughts on “3 tips to avoid Rash Decisions

  1. maureenmonte February 23, 2017 at 4:51 pm Reply

    I really like the blog, Khalid, and my strength of Individualization (knowing what makes someone tick) is wondering what precipitated this from you. But that’s a discussion for another day. I believe that the core of the issue is that we all see the world through the lens of our own strengths. We can’t believe someone would do “something like that” because we would never do it. Or say something like that. Or think something like that, etc. Going to a 3rd party is helpful because you do get another “strengths lens” that may complement your own and provide new understanding. We all create a movie inside our head, our own personal opera, when things don’t go as planned. Our movie may be true, like a documentary, or it may be pulp fiction. Either way, it’s only a movie. I love asking why (to validate or deconstruct our movie) and removing protagonists. I live in America where we make a full-time job out of creating heroes and villains. Actions are the same on both sides – change the name of the protagonist to the name of the villain, and viola. But that’s also a discussion for another day. I like to use the Hippocratic Oath: First, do no harm. If opening your mouth and sharing your movie will do harm, hit the pause button. Easier said than done, by the way, but it’s good practice for leading oneself.

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  2. May be. Live with it. | #SocialGlamor March 2, 2017 at 1:36 pm Reply

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