Category Archives: All Things Social

8 Things Happy People Do Differently

Being happy is a state of mind yet folks get mired into what is happening around them and decide to stay unhappy. Or let’s say they do not decide to stay happy.

Key to Happiness: Events which are not favorable should stay with you as a Story in Life and not the Story of Life! <Tweet This>

8 things happy people

I was in an animated discussion with a friend on this topic and it came to fore that being happy is not that difficult though staying unhappy is easier. The trick is to understand and dispel the impact stuff has on you. Here is what we discussed:

  1. Something is better than nothing: We keep complaining about how we do not have everything – yes you heard it. Look around you – you have family, friends, job, transportation, connected devices, media, food, and the internet. Why are you sad? If you do not have something right now, then focus on what you have.
  2. Maximize what you have: Your lover is visiting your city and can only spend 2 hours with you and you go all frenzy and start the fight (and keep justifying that you deserve more) and eventually waste those 2 hours as well. In your struggle to get more, you wasted what you had – you and your lover are unhappy as well. You also managed to do some damage to the relation.
    • Instead, plan how you will make the most of those 2 hours and make those beautiful memories.
  3. Give 110% when you are down: Your management isn’t giving you a raise or promotion you deserve and you start to withdraw while you look for other opportunities. Guess what 2 outcomes exist:
    1. You get the new opportunity and you move on: But you have left a bad name for yourself and burned the bridges for you to ever come back. If you do continue to give more, who knows what could be the possibilities. What if your new employer conducts a ref-check on attitude and performance? What if your current management realizes their mistake and now want to promote you and give you a fatter raise?
    2. You do not get the new opportunity: You ensured your performance is down and you stay where you were. No one promotes employees who hold back. If you continue to perform, there may be newer opportunities which will open up. Also, your performance will continue to put pressure on people to reward you adequately.

I got this forward video and I would like all of you to see this and soak in the message.

Question: What do you do to stay happy? Reply and share your secret sauce.

Suggested Readings

  1. This Monday, decide what you want in life!
  2. May be. Live with it.
  3. 3 tips to avoid Rash Decisions
  4. Leaders are never born, they become!

Fun Read: 9 tricks to appear smarter in a meeting

Did you ever wonder how people sound so awesome in meetings (and behave like it is their den)? Now I am sharing with you the secret sauce of their curry.

Just be a good ape and you are all set to bamboozle others!

Smarter Meeting

  1. Draw a Venn diagram. Whatever be the size of the circles, it always works.
  2. Step out for a phone call, saying “Sorry, I have to, have to take this.” You will be an instant hero.
  3. Take notes like there is no tomorrow, and nod your head vigorously, to every argument presented. Pro-Tip: Don’t know what to write? Just write the first word of every sentence you hear. It always fills the pages.
  4. Repeat the last thing which that super-achiever just said, but repeat it slowly. Say, “Let me just repeat that” and then repeat it slowly, One-word-at-a-time. Bingo! His excellence has been transferred to you now.
  5. Pace around the room, go to a corner, sigh deeply, and then think something. People will wonder, woo.. what the hell is happening in his mind.
  6. Disconnected from the presentation? No matter which slides the presenter is on, just ask him/her to go back a slide. Suddenly, you are inside the presentation.
  7. A special one for Startups: If its a startup, then no matter what is the idea or the theory, ask, “Will this scale?” This simple question will force everyone to notice you. And make you a super-knowledge provider of anything and everything.
  8. Smartly translate percentage into fractions. Like the presenter just said 25% of all visitors buy this product. You say, “You mean one out of four?”, and then quickly take a note. People will start respecting you more.
  9. Really not sure where the meeting is going as you were taking a power nap? No issues dear. Just say, “guys, guys, guys. Can we take a step back?” and then stop. After 3 seconds, say loudly, “Exactly what problem are we going to solve here?” And boom..! You are back into the picture and in a more respected manner.

Disclaimer: I got this as a forward and it not my creation. See I am not that smart after all!

What should I read next?

  1. This Monday, decide what you want in life!
  2. Meetings! Do we really waste time?
  3. May be. Live with it.


May be. Live with it.

I am a huge fan of mentoring – no doubt. However, I disagree that learning only happens when planned. Most of the super-sticky and impactful learning experiences I have had have happened unplanned. [Tweet This]

I was in a meeting with DP Singh, Vice President & HR Head, India South Asia, IBM, to discuss the crazy-fun work we do under India HR Hub effort where we focus on accelerating the adoption of social and technology by HR Professionals. The conversation drifted to team-work and DP shared with us 2 tips to ensure teams stay together and continue to improve.

DP posits that we should observe 2 behaviors when working in a team:

  • may-be-live-with-it-socialglamorMay be: Most of the time, teams become war zones when team members start to shoot down ideas and people. This takes an ugly spiral turn and then becomes a norm. This behaviour inhibits team members to be open and share ideas or suggestions. DP believes each team member should listen to the idea or suggestion and consider – ‘may be’ this is possible. This approach allows you to be inclusive, encourages new ideas and also opens up a new perspective. So next time you hear a new suggestion, think.
  • Live with it: When your idea or suggestion is not considered by the team, ask yourself if you can ‘live with it’ before getting into a frenzy to dismantle the fabric around you. It is very easy to get worked up (also read: 3 tips to avoid Rash Decisions) and take decisions which do not serve any fruitful purpose. Do not attach your ego with the outcome and always keep the team agenda in your perspective.

When I heard these points, I kept thinking – how easy it is to follow these 2 steps and what an impactful learning this is for all of us. So many times we see great teams doing average work because team members start to cannibalize as they tend to solution other team members than the problem.

Do you have any idea to make amazing teams? DO share with me by commenting.

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Exclusive discount of 10% for #TechHR16

My dear readers, here is an exclusive discount only for you for all the love you have for #SocialGlamor blog.

As you know, People Matters is organizing TechHR ’16. This is Asia’s largest conference where thought leaders will explore the various opportunities emerging for organizations to reinvent the talent practices by leveraging the power of technology. Given below are quick details of the conference

TechHR Conference & Exhibition
A People Matters Initiative
4th & 5th of August 2016
The Leela Ambience, Gurgaon

It is my privilege to offer you an exclusive discount code to the conference. Just use “khalidraza9”as the discount code at the registration page to avail 10% discount on the delegate. Given below are a few links for your quick reference

·  Access all information about the conference by visiting website
·  Download the conference agenda by clicking here
·  Register online by clicking here and use the discount code “khalidraza9” to get 10% discount on the registration fee.

You can reach out to the People Matters team if you need help, but remember to use my discount code!  Here are the details of the contact person from People Matters: Parul Shukla | | 8750096719.

I will miss the conference as I am out of India, but will chime in using #TechHR16

Driving talent engagement through social

Talent is the biggest challenge organizations are facing in today’s environment where the millennials are taking charge. Employers all over the world are looking to find ways to keep employees engaged. Gallup research shows that only 13% of employees around the world are actively engaged at work, and more than twice that number are so disengaged, that they are likely to spread negativity to others.

If people are not engaged, how can leaders attain those business objectives that are critical to improving organizational performance? And, at the same, we need our leaders to engage employees.


An engaged employee becomes an asset to the team, department, business unit and organization by continuously thinking about the bigger picture. In his book, Getting Engaged: The New Workplace Loyalty, author Tim Rutledge explains that the truly engaged employees are attracted to, and inspired by, their work (“I want to do this”), committed (“I am dedicated to the success of what I am doing”), and fascinated (“I love what I am doing”). Engaged employees care about the future of the company and are willing to invest the discretionary effort – exceeding duty’s call – to ensure that the organization succeeds.

Talent engagement is not a goal, it is a state of being; focus should stay on sustaining it.

Most organizations have an annual employee engagement survey which helps leaders assess the engagement levels but it’s…

Read the complete article on People Matters or on LinkedIn.

My 2015 in review

2015 is over but I am still hungover. What an year it was. Lemme quickly share with you some highlights of my 2015 and I will eagerly wait to hear your top highlight of the year through the comment section.

To begin with, my blog got a lot of love from all of you. The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 11,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 4 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.

And I became a proud father of Zayaan Raza, who joined us on 5th Dec 2015. Here is us wishing you an awesome New Year!

Last but not the least, the icing on the cake was when I got selected in the 25 Top Indian HR Professionals – what an honor!

Disha 2015, Day 4: Sophos – Mr. Khalid Raza, Talent Development Manager, IBM – “Analytics is about taking data, understanding it and interpreting it to solve business challenges.”

#HRAnalytics is not a choice anymore.
To access the deck used in this talk, please see this page:

The TAPMI Blog

Khalid Raza

In another of those high energy Sophos session in Disha2015, Mr. Khalid Raza, Talent Development Manager – IBM, introduced the students of TAPMI to the world of data analytics. He started off with a question to the students about their understanding of the term “analytics”. He went on to explain about the usage of analytics in solving business challenges. Most of the time we see what we want to see and omit what we don’t want to see. Analytics is about taking data, understanding it and interpreting it to solve business challenges. Data analytics could be used in HR practice to uncover the hidden truths about the work force, he said. Although companies around the world make use of analytics to gauge consumer preferences and behaviour, least amount of analytics is done on workforce. The data variables available on work force are limited to the likes of attrition numbers, head…

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