Our materialistic lives have always interfered with the most pious human emotions we can have – love, affection, care, gratitude, compassion… And with the advent of Social world, we are moving away, although connected. That is a price we all have to pay – we read online articles and are forgetting the ruffle of the morning newspaper, we comment on blogs and miss the immersive evening debates, we like the photos on instagram but too busy to go on a vacation.. Life has transformed.
In all of this, our relations, with other human beings, take toll. It is time now we should invest more in our relations. While I was pondering over these thoughts and I got an email from Mac Anderson, Founder, Simple Truths and it could not have been more timely. Here is what it said,
An excerpt from
The 100/0 Principle
by Al Ritter
“What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It’s The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 – Determine what you can do to make the relationship work…then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 – Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 – Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don’t take the bait.
STEP 4 – Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don’t respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return. Continue reading